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22nd February 1984 - 1st December 2004
passed away  so suddenly and tragically whilst a passenger in a car driven wrecklessly by Anthony Burns.. on 27th November 2004 why does  he survive yet Gemma sustained such a terrible head injuryر ? I hope he is haunted each and every day that his actions that night ended such a beautiful young life.. just as I am haunted by the lifeless body of my beautiful child ...

Gemma such  a loving  child who grew into a beautiful woman with such a love of life she will always be remembered for that beautiful smile and will be forever loved and remembered by her family and friends.. time changes nothing we miss her so much and always will
I  love you so much Gem xx.. 

 

Your Niece Emma &Nephew Daniel sending our balloons to you on your 28th Birthday

Our Birthday Cards with messages of love to you

22nd February 2012

Little Teddy Bearwith love  from your Niece Summer Gemma named after you

 

OCTOBER 2ND 2011

 

 

SCOTT AND HIS FRIENDS ON HIS 18TH

 

OUR FAMILY ALWAYS MISSING YOU GEMMA

 

 

 

 

YOUR NEW NIECE SUMMER GEMMA STARLING 

BORN 3RD AUGUST 2010 @ 1.05AM 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1st DECEMBER 2009 5 YEARS WITHOUT YOU

 

 

YOUR BROTHER SCOTT IN REMEMBRANCE PARADE 2009

 

 

 

HAPPY HALLOWEEN GEMMA 2009

 

Scott & Daniel Portugal July 09

 

always missing you Gem on our family Holidays July 2009

 

 

SCOTT  WEARING PINK ACCESSORIES TO HIS PROM

 IN MEMORY OF YOU

22ND MAY 2009

 

 

DANIEL WITH "TIGGER" IN YOUR GARDEN

5TH APRIL 2009


 

 REMEMBERING YOUR 25TH  BIRTHDAY

 

DANIEL'S 2ND BIRTHDAy

 

XMAS DAY 2008 

 YOUR MISSED IN OUR PHOTO'S GEM

4TH YEAR  WITHOUT YOU GEMMA

1ST DEC 2008 

MARIE'S 30TH BIRTHDAY PARTY

22.11.08 

 

 

SCOTT'S BIRTHDAY DINNER

 

 

17TH SEPTEMBER 2008

NATALIE'S BIRTHDAY

 

your Brother Scott with  Daniel & Emma Aug 08

OUR FAMILY PHOTO'S ARE NEVER COMPLETE ALWAYS MISSING YOU GEM

  

YOUR NIECES AND NEPHEW SPAIN 2008     

    

  

DANIEL IN YOUR NEW GARDEN WE HAVE CREATED

 

 

                we completed the 5k race for life June 08

          

 

      MUM UNCLE PHIL, UNCLE MARTIN. AUNT YVONNE, AND NAN.   CELEBRATING GRANDAD'S 80TH BIRTHDAY WITHOUT HIM..

           

YOUR NEPHEW DANIEL 15 MONTHS HE KNOWS ALL ABOUT HIS SPECIAL AUNTIE..

 
GEMMA'S 24TH BIRTHDAY
 


DANIEL'S 1ST BIRTHDAY
2ND FEBRUARY 2008 


 



 



















           

      
      
































































FAMILY PAY TRIBUTE TO SPECIAL DAUGHTER
By Corporate Communication Dept

20-year-old Gemma Ling from Chingford, London, tragically died on Wednesday (December 1) following a road traffic accident on the M1 motorway on November 27.

Gemma’s parents, Shirley and Robert, older sisters Natalie and Marie, brother Scott and her soul mate Alan paid tribute to Gemma.

Gemma grew up in Waltham Forest and moved to Chingford with her family about ten years ago. She attended Chingford School and 6th Form College and then completed a diploma in beauty therapy at the London School of Beauty.

She worked at Hello Holidays in Chingford with her sister Natalie. Travel was one of Gemma’s main interests – this year she had been on a family holiday to Cyprus, and Turkey with Alan.

The family said: “We never realised how many friends Gemma had until this week. We visited her workplace and everyone is devastated. So many people visited her while she was in hospital.

“Gemma lived her life fully – she never worried about the future and did everything she wanted. She would spend her wages as soon as got them on her passion “clothes and shoes” We’re so glad that she did everything she wanted to in the time that she had.

“She had a real passion for music. She did a lot of promotional work for Alan’s band ‘Cousin Luke’ and she followed them around the country and was their biggest fan. Although a quiet girl she put so much energy and enthusiasm into promoting the band. She even organised a charity gig which raised about £250 for a teenage cancer charity as a family friend’s daughter had Terminal Cancer.

“She loved heavy rock music – we could never understand why she liked it so much because it just sounded like a racket to us- and this year went to the Reading festival with her friends and roughed it in the mud and rain and had already spoken of going again in 2005.

“She also had a girlie side to her too, especially when she was with her sisters. Her favourite colour was pink and she loved her little nieces, Jessica and Emma who always looked up to Gemma.

“She had already made plans for her 21st birthday which will be in February. She wanted to go to her favourite restaurant in Canary Wharf by limousine. We’re still going to go there as a family to celebrate, because that’s what she would have wanted. She loved to go out and have a good time.


“Gemma was the light of our lives her smile lighting up her whole face, she’s been so tragically taken from us that our live’s can never be the same. A friend gave us a card which said she was a “special gem” and can never be replaced and that’s just what she was to us and always will be. Christmas time was also very special to her and she will always be our Christmas Angel.

Gemma’s family would like to thank everybody for their expressions of concern and practical help.

Gemma’s funeral is taking place at 11.30am on December 14 (Tuesday) at the Old Church on the hill in Chingford. All those who knew Gemma are welcome to attend the ceremony.

The family have requested that all donations be sent to George White & Sons funeral directors, 95, Old Church Road Chingford London E4. These will then be sent to the National Hospital Development Foundation at Queen’s Square Hospital in London, where Gemma was treated for her injuries






 
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So much has happened since the passing of Gemma
I miss her beyond belief. They it gets easier with time. I ask myself "What gets easier?" The fact that I have hardly any more tears left, so I don't cry so much? The fact she is out of site, therefore out of mind? NO never out of my mind.

It has been a little over two years since I last had a conversation, a hug, a kiss, a phone call, or a text message. I truly enjoyed all these things with Gemma because she made them meaningful. Gemma had a way of making everything she did unforgetable,
Never can I forget any of these wonderful things, nor would I want to. No more than I can ever forget Gemma, nor would I want to...But it would be nice not to hurt so much. Time doesn't heal or make it easier...it makes it harder. At first I was in shock and didn't know what to think or do. Later reality set in and I know what I have to do, but a big part of my happiness is missing and it makes everything so much harder to enjoy and do.

It is not fair that innocent people pass on and leave behind those who are left hurting.
Losing a child is like losing half of yourself and you know there is nowhere to look or nothing you can do to find the part that makes you complete.

I love Gemma and forever I will treasure the fact that I was her Mum, and she my beautiful daughter. 





PLEASE ALWAYS THINK OF GEMMA IN EVERYTHING YOU DO SHE LOVED LIFE! AND HER FAMILY AND  TRULY VALUED HER FRIENDS LET HER NEVER BE FORGOTTEN
 





  






















    











   












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Family Tree
Tributes and Condolences
9 years   / Mum (Heartbroken mum )
I can't believe it is that time again! Each year seems to fly by so quickly yet each year doesn't get easier especially leading up to 1st December both Dad and I always relive events of 2004 like it happened yesterday everything is so clear in our mi...  Continue >>
Never ever stop missing you   / Mum
My darling Gemma. I always would visit this site daily it was my way of keeping you in my life I were looking for someway anyway of making life as it was but in these 9years I have found that nothing will ever be the same ever again.. We have moved ...  Continue >>
Missing You   / Emma
Gemma,well a lot has happened since I last since I last came on here, I know I don't come on here much, but your always in my heart and mind. No one can ever feel the pain I feel, I miss you more than words can say! Another day goes by without seeing...  Continue >>
Happy 29th Birthday   / X. Mum X. (mum)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARLING GEMMA 29 TODAY Another year has passed Gem I often wonder how I am still living! I still remember so clearly your 20th Birthday 2004 we all went to Frankie & Benny’s we always shared our birthday meal as...  Continue >>
8 Christmases Gone!   / Emma!<3
Gemma! It's now been 8 years you haven't been here with us! It broke my heart when nan told us you were gone forever! I couldn't beleive it! I was only 5 but I've still got so many memories! You don't know about Daniel and summer! Well Daniel is look...  Continue >>
missing u xxxxx  / Nafalie (sister)    Read >>
i love you forever & always..  / Jessica     Read >>
Happy birthday auntie gemma!  / Jes     Read >>
happy bithday gemma xxx  / Natalie (sister)    Read >>
28th BIRTHDAY  / Mum     Read >>
Miss you so much!  / Jessica Wilkins     Read >>
8 Xmas's without you  / X. Mum X. (Mum)    Read >>
7 Years  / Marie     Read >>
miss u Gemma xxxx  / Natalie (sister)    Read >>
7 Year Too Long!!  / Mum (Heartbroken mum )    Read >>
More tributes and condolences...
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Her legacy
Justice for Gemma... 27/28th March 2006  
Today 28th March we can finally put behind us the circumstances surrounding Gemma's life being taken.
for the last 2 days Anthony Burns has stood in the Court and contested the fact his actions that night Nov 27th were caused by his negligence.. yet it was proven by both witnesses and numerous evidence from the Crash Investigators that there was no cause other than driver error and inexperience that resulted in Gemma's death...the prosecution were brilliant including wherever possible that the events of that night resulted in Gemma's "death"although we knew from day one it was never her death that he was being charged with and we have never said he intentionally intended to kill her that night... yet the facts are that his actions resulted in Gemma's terrible injuries...

The Magistrates took 30 minutes to come to a verdict... he was found guilty of driving with undue care and attention.. and received 8 penalty points £250 fine..
 for the charge  of driving without Insurance which he admitted in Court yesterday before proceedings began.. he was fined £200 plus he has to pay full costs of £1200...
it also came out in Court that he already had 3 points on his licence for speeding this in the first 4 months  of passing the test in April 2004... so effectively this means because he was a novice driver his Licence is revoked so now  has  reverted back to a provisional licence therefore having to take the driving  and theory test again...
 if and when! he passes he already has 11 points on the licence meaning if he has so much as a parking fine within the next 3 years he will have the licence taken away... 
we feel Justice as far as it can be with the Laws in this Country  has been done...
 yet no amount of money or points can ever return Gemma to us.. so although we feel happy with the outcome... it will make no difference to our lives other than we no longer have to be constantly tormented by the facts of what happened that night..
we knew way back in November 2004 the kind of driver he was and these past 2 days have proved we were right he has at no time shown any remorse or admitted he was in any way at fault.. let alone responsible for Gemma's safety whilst a passenger in his car...
even after the deliberation was over he still could not show us any compassion what so ever...
maybe those that find it fitting to write here and try and tell us he must be feeling remorse... seeing him and his father these past 2 days  there was not an inkling of compassion.. even whilst addressing the Magistrates... Anthony Burns  nightmare has ended.. he  can put this incident behind him and move on with his life!... our lives changed forever the day he took Gemma's life...

It was hard to sit and listen to events leading up to the crash.. Anthony admitted he was'nt happy Gemma wanted to come home to her family .. he admitted they had as he put it  "words" trying to pursuade her  to stay at his house.. even to the fact he was driving slowly hoping she would change her mind.. yet she was adamant she wanted to return home to us... this is so sad for us as parents... knowing she wanted to come home... did he speed up out of anger through not getting his own way?? we will never know.. the one person that can truthfully say what happened in that car is no longer with us...

 Thankfully wherever Gemma is  now  no one can ever hurt her again....
Always Loved and Remembered Forever...
 

EULOGY COMPOSED AND READ BY ALAN AT GEMMA'S FUNERAL ...  

I have written many words about Gemma over the last few years, in small poems


                 And music, but this is the hardest thing I have had to write.


 


She had such a great outlook on life, of living for the moment and not wanting to


   Miss out on anything. She loved being spontaneous and doing whatever she felt


                                                        Like on the day.


 


Money was never an issue with Gemma, whatever she wanted to do, she did.


Holidays all over the world, a brand new car, going to gigs, shopping, festivals,


                                        out drinking and many others.


 


I am so proud of her for having this philosophy in life, and so thankful for being


There with her, to enjoy and experience such things. It is people like Gemma that


           Give inspiration to others to live in such a way, because life is for living.


 


She loved people, her family and her friends. She was such a caring person, and


     She always surprised me how much she really thought about other people’s


Happiness. If ever I was feeling low, Gemma was always there to pick me back up


                          And comfort me. She was like this with everybody.


 


She knew what was really important in life, the only thing she ever really wanted


  Was to be happy. With the amount of times she smiled and laughed, I don’t think


                       Anybody can really doubt that she had achieved that.


 


I am a big believer in the Soul, and that the Soul is what really makes a person


Who they are. She had a beautiful Soul, of love, happiness and for a true passion


Of life. I believe when somebody leaves this world, their Soul is always alive and


   Goes to a better place. Our body is just here on Earth in order for our Soul to


                                                        Express itself.


 


Ever since I met Gemma my life has never been the same. She changed me from


A boy into a man. Her influence on my life is huge. She is my greatest inspiration.


 


I will miss her immensely, but I will remember everything she has taught me


About life, and the amazing times and memories that we have shared together.


 


I know that I  am not the only person she has touched, she has touched us all in


                                                     Some form.


 


To me Gemma was truly an Angel, and this gives me great comfort. Although


She is not physically with us, she will always be here in spirit and Soul, with us in

                       Our memories, our dreams and forever in our hearts.
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